Unbelievable! After a week of stressing and hours spent
looking for my car/house keys and not wanting to tell Ethan because of how he
would react - I finally 'fessed up on Tuesday night. Only to discover that he'd
had them all along.
Apparently he told me that he was taking one set away to
avoid the chance of them being lost. Really don't remember that. He says I was
walking in the opposite direction at the time and doing something with the
kids....well there you go then. It didn't occur to him to wait until a calmer
time when I might actually be able to take in what he was telling me! Anyway,
all's well that ends well I suppose, although could have done without the week of
stress. It did give the opportunity to have a discussion though about why I'd
held back from mentioning it for so long - for fear of how he'd react. I told
him that it's very lonely feeling I
can't be open with him about life's little hiccups and frustrations, like lost
keys, because of how stressed and annoyed he'll get. Told him that, when things
go wrong, as they inevitably will, I need to know he's not going to make things
worse by obsessing over it and spreading an air of tension and gloom over us
all. He promised to try harder not to over-react and get angry the next time something
annoying happens. We'll see...
In the meantime, I need to tell you, dear readers who have
stuck with me on this journey we all travel, that this blog will be changing.
I'm linking in with the absolutely fantastic website and
support network - Different Together. For any of you who haven't discovered it
yet, visit www.different-together.co.uk The website is filled with information on
living with an AS partner as well as a forum where you can chat to
other people living the same reality. There's also an excellent interview with Tony Attwood on the home page.
In future, I'll still be writing this blog, it'll still
chart the everyday challenges and mini triumphs of living as an NT partner of
an AS spouse, but I'll also be pulling in news and content from the Different
Together website and Facebook page and keeping people up-to-date with developments
for the Different Together conference that looks likely to take place in May
2016. And the blog will look a bit different too and will probably change its
name. But rest assured - it'll still be Ethan and I muddling through!
Glad your keys surfaced Laura, Mr H would do the same, tells me something while I am distracted, and believes I will have heard and retained. Yet he can happily deny that I have asked him to empty the dishwasher/ put the bin out/ feed the dog. Stupid man.
ReplyDeleteHow exciting about the blog changes, can't wait to see!
Hannah x